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Baby Showers

Baby Showers
Question: Is it proper for a mother to throw her daughter a baby shower?  Isn’t it usually friends who do that?

It is proper for a mother to give her daughter a baby shower. Usually there are others who join in on a baby shower, but that is not a necessary pre-requisite. Let me share a couple of baby showers I have thrown for my own daughters and daughters-in-law. Often the mother's friends and sisters and sisters-in-law join in ours mine did. My home was the site of these parties because it was most condusive to entertaining.

You may notice that while lots of folks are eager to throw a party for the first child's events, but offers for the second and third chid are not so frequent. There is nothing wrong with the family coming together with close friends to throw a baby shower.

The shower begins with the offer to throw a shower. The one who offers designs the parameters for the party. Where to hold the event, how many to invite, the food to serve, etc. Those items determine the cost of the event.

I am constantly amazed that the recipient of that generous offer would presume to tell the one throwing the party where to hold the event, how many to invite, what to serve. One must consider the ability of those who offer to hold the event and ALWAYS express gratitude and DO NOT BE DEMANDING! That is the height of rudeness.
present opening
Brooke with presents
I like to hold events in my home because I like the intimacy of a home event AND I can better control the cost of the event. I think people are more likely to linger in a home. To me that is a good thing.

This is the invitation to our son and daughter-in-love/law's shower for their first child. Invitation to Georges shower
George baby shower
Drew and Brittany opening presents
This is a sample of the food served at these events. Brownies, petit fors (from Roland's), punch, coffee and water, finger sandwiches (thin sliced bread with olive and cream cheese, chicken salad, cherries and cream cheese or other fillings) and nuts or other salty items. Plastic and paper suffice, but some folks like to use their silver as you can see on the far right.
Table for Anna's Shower