The shower begins with the offer to throw a shower. The one who offers designs the parameters for the party. Where to hold the event, how many to invite, the food to serve, etc. Those items determine the cost of the event.
I am constantly amazed that the recipient of that generous offer would presume to tell the one throwing the party where to hold the event, how many to invite, what to serve. One must consider the ability of those who offer to hold the event and ALWAYS express gratitude and DO NOT BE DEMANDING! That is the height of rudeness.
I like to hold events in my home because I like the intimacy of a home event AND I can better control the cost of the event. I think people are more likely to linger in a home. To me that is a good thing.
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This is a sample of the food served at these events. Brownies, petit fors (from Roland's), punch, coffee and water, finger sandwiches (thin sliced bread with olive and cream cheese, chicken salad, cherries and cream cheese or other fillings) and nuts or other salty items. Plastic and paper suffice, but some folks like to use their silver as you can see on the far right.
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