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The Wedding Raising Part IV:  Implementation

E.  I needed quite a bit of help from my Friends: 

Realizing what a big responsibility all of this was I sent out an email to my friends requesting their help and then drawing up a chart for who would be responsible for what and when. Things happen and life intervenes so several who intended to come could not make it.  But the group who did come had fun and we got something magical to come about.

 This was how my carport looked the day of the "Wedding Raising".  The ping pong table became our work table. Sweet friends, Diane Enloe and Pat Branch.

 These are the flowers I had on hand to work with.  I planned ahead and Sams delivered exactly ontime.  My sister, Sylvia, came early to "cut those stems underneath the water" as directed by ever flower arranging book I have ever read!  I think I will buy one of those "stem cutters" next time.

 Projected assignment of jobs
 

Of course when the day arrived, there were those who could not come and I wound up assignments wound up being assigned to whomever arrived first.  That way, the least important jobs just didn't get done...and it was okay.  We're always tempted to attempt more than we can actually achieve.  Be flexible!!!

Person	Area	Picture
Pat Renfro	Stairs
Christie Thomley	Gazebo
Nagel Byrd	Pew buckets.  These will hang from the pews in the church and then come home to adorn the gates.  I have 6 for alternating the first 6 rows of the church.  They have handles to tie tulle ribbon for hanging them from the pew.
Sharman, Pat and Walt To be adapted to reality.	Arbor near greenhouse Magnolias from my house and my mothers.  White Christmas lights.  Flowers or tulle bows or a combination.
Barbara Moore	Arrangement in cement urn in back.  I like the surprise of a formal arrangement appearing in a yard.  At least 1 doz roses here, perhaps with pittosporum for height,  and fern and ivy as greenery.
Elizabeth Brown	Children’s area.  Minnie and Mickey Mouse cake (blue and white striped with polka dot second layer)  Polka dot table cloth for serving table.  Mason jar candles dangling on limbs?  Children’s tables and chairs.  Baskets for Bubbles, colors, etc.  Special menu for children served here.
Beverly Mayfield and Betty Peters	Smoking Lounge and Floral Chandelier Floral chandelier will be made with a black iron pot holder that we will drape with greenery and dangle flowers from in individual water holders.  If we can figure out how to make candle holders that would be nice.  It will hang over the pool table/carport serving table. Eric Newman my best friend from junior high school’s husband owns the cigar company that makes the country’s favorite cigar (Opus Fuente).  He will be bringing samples of his product so we’re designing a “man cave” smoking lounge for our gentlemen to indulge in a good cigar and a glass of Scotch or Bourbon.	The Unity candle arrangement will be below the flower chandelier.
Gail Kennedy	2 Arbors into back yard from back gate been crushed to draw in more water into the stems, kept in the shade and frequently refreshed with ice cubes in the water.
Sharman	Potato Bar
Sharman and Paulette Clardy	Arrangement on pergola near pool.
Pat Branch and Diane Enloe   What about a pineapple in the center? I have iron hangers lining the side of the sidewalk with nothing on them.  Ideas?  This is just an idea.  I will make a magnolia swag to have prepared for you.  It is just the centerpiece and what goes up to the front door that needs your genius.  These luminaries are just an idea.  I have some glass vases…just not this shape.  I have several smaller rounded ones to use as vases for tables or perhaps luminaries for the front door.	Front arrangement on balcony	Dear friends, Pat Branch and Diane Enloe
Martha Nix and Linda Woodruff   This is the centerpiece of the Bride’s area.	Tent I have tulle to swag and will be making a garland for the top of the tent of magnolia leaves and scotch pine.  This should be the focal point.  We’ll use most of the extra roses here.
Ann Britt and Barbara Blumenfeld	Brides and Grooms Tables Sweetheart Table	Use your imagination with what we have
Ann Britt and Barbara Blumenfeld	Tables around the tent and Tables around the yard.  Betty has 10 tables that seat at least 10.  Imagine those tables plus 2 long tables for the bridesmaids and the groomsmen with Brooke and Mike at a sweetheart table between.  These will back onto our neighbor’s house.  I have a fancy candelabra I thought would go on the sweetheart table Brooke’s bouquet.  The bridesmaid’s bouquets can go on the attendants tables. We may have to see just what flowers show up that day to determine what the table decorations will be.	Blue wine bottles, bowls, tin pans, wine glasses, etc. Terra cotta pots and a variety of table cloths.  White near tent.  Variety in the back yard.
Sharman	Magnolia Heart wreath above gazing globe and in back yard on plant vine trainer.  Hoop around the neck of 2 statues in the back yard.
Brooke	Memory Tree and Money Box

Bringing flowers from church to use at the Reception
Assign someone to bring the flowers from the church and
MAKE SURE THEY KNOW WHERE TO PUT THEM WHEN THEY GET TO THE HOUSE!

 I drew up a jobs list prioritizing the projects with the greatest impact. As my friends arrived I set them in twos to work on these focal points. Since I had already sent out a projected plan, some had collaborated on ideas and how to implement them.

I had all the materials they would need for the individual projects laid out according to project on my ping pong table.   These included:  several pair of stem and wire cutters, several rolls of wire of all grade, electricians tape (needed to hold wet oasis to vertical tray on front balcony), pineapple (already halved) plus whole pineapple for other arrangements, trays of several sizes and depths for use as receptacles for arrangements, florist tape, collection of blue wine bottles, 6 bolts of tulle plus extra, tulle ribbon of all widths (white, pink and blue), buckets of leather leaf fern (scavenged from neighbors), buckets of gypsophilia , buckets of roses of assorted colors (mainly pink and white), buckets of calla lilies, buckets of hydrangea (all flowers ordered from Sam's).  I had an umbrella stand with white painted flagpole and the grated top to a fern stand ready to weave tulle through to create the "canopy" under which I would situate the "sweetheart table" for the bride and groom.  Two handled buckets had already been spray painted white and were ready for arranging. Hula hoops had been spray painted white to make into flower hoops.

After setting out the tables, plans changed as to where the "sweetheart table" would be.  Things look different when in place than they do on paper.  Be ready to shift.  When Ann Britt arrived and took a look at where I had put the tent she immediately knew it was in the wrong place and directed us in shifting it to where it truly became a focal point.  When gifted with friends who have an "eye" for where things ought to be take advantage of their talents and go with the flow.

Pat Renfro set the motif for our designs by using a garland and arrangement of roses, pineapple, lemons and limes interspersed with magnolia leaves, fern, pittosporum and coral vine in decorating the staircase in the entry hall and mantel in the living room, making the garden flow from the inside out.

The garland was bought at Inside Accents.  We used cake pans to set our wet oasis in and wired the oasis and pineapple down secured to the banister. 

Above the front door on the iron filigree of the balcony, Pat Branch and Diane Enloe incorporated pineapple and limes with a Della Robia influenced central a

rrangement and a lighted Christmas Garland enhanced with magnolia leaves.

I had found the heart shaped wreath in our attic years ago.  It was apparently one my husband's mother probably used for a bridal luncheon of some sort.  I thought it appropriate to incorporate it in some manner in our decorations.  We used U shaped floral pins to secure the pittosporum to the wreath.  The lighted Christmas garland filled out with magnolia leaves from the tree in our yard went to make a beautiful entry decoration. 

Betty Peters groomed Knockout roses.

Nagel Byrd added delicate coral vine and leatherleaf fern to the pineapple, limes, roses and pittosporum in the antique silver epergne on the dining table and the living room mantle. She also directed the creation of a tulle canopy above the sweetheart table on the patio using an umbrella stand, flag pole and fern stand grill. Ron and Arloa Evans, parents of the groom, followed Nagel’s orders in creating the canopy over the sweetheart table.

This was

actually the first time I had much interaction with my daughter's future in laws.  Working together on a project helped me to build a bridge with them and make a special memory.  They had the opportunity to meet some of my very dear friends in something more than a party situation.

Christie Thomley suggested placing palm fronds in an urn referring back to the pineapple motif of the entry. (Here are the sweethearts at the sweetheart table underneath that canopy.)

Gail Kennedy created floral arrangements with greenery, palm fronds, and ivy to flow from the top of a pergola draped in tulle. Linda Woodruff swagged tulle on arbors.

As you can see from the before and after photos the final product was beautiful. 

Pat and Walt Spierdowis of Louisville, Kentucky and Panama City came just to pull weeds and offer willing hands and wound up decorating a gazebo. 

Ann Britt turned a white plastic tent into a formal gazebo with mums, tulle, a bench and garden urns.

My sister, Dr. Sylvia Rushing, of Metarie, Louisiana, took time off of her cardiology practice to come help me condition and arrange roses, calla lilies, hydrangea and gypsophilia (you never have enough) ordered from samsclub.com, delivered on time directly to our door.  Not only did she condition flowers, she made sure the house smelled good by placing scented candles and pot pourri throughout the house.  And...she scrubbed bathrooms and the staircase.  Is that a good sister?

As soon as they arrived, Brooke, Sylvia and I began cutting the stems and sticking in the water to which a tablespoon of Clorox had been added to fight bacteria.  Sylvia and I debated the reasoning behind cutting the roses beneath the surface of the water and concluded we could cut and stuff without injuring those 300 roses too much...and save our backs!!!  We should have crushed the stems of the hydrangea with a hammer to facilitate water absorption, but did not do so.  That would have helped preserve them. 

Coffee and Krispy Kremes started the day. Nagel Byrd brought sandwiches, Barbara Blumenfeld made pasta salad, Paulette Clardy added cheese tidbits, and Ann Britt contributed wine from Chateau Elan for a midday al fresco picnic.

I discovered you can never have too much time or tulle in decorating a garden for a wedding. We swagged and puffed tulle on arbors, gates and the gazebo, spray painted hula hoops white, wrapped them with ivy and added tulle bows, spray painted buckets white, filled them with hydrangea, roses, and gypsophilia, and hung them with tulle ribbon from pews as church flowers and fence decorations afterwards.

Brooke printed off wedding coloring books for the children and made the programs for the wedding

Boiled peanuts (Southern caviar) fresh from McNeil farms were featured in a garden room on the back of the garden. A Mickey and Minnie Mouse wedding cake and special children’s menu completed a children’s room near the playhouse.

The Smoker’s Lounge/Man Cave turned out to be "the hit" of the event.  Gentlemen continue to comment on what a treat it was to meet Eric and Lyris Newman who shared with our guests the Cuesta-Rey and Diamond Crown products that have made their cigar company famous. Octogenarian friend from Panama City, John Cheshire, commented on how much he enjoyed this part of the event saying, "I remember when it was the custom for the men to leave the ladies to do, whatever ladies do, and retire to a room after supper to enjoy a good cigar."  Joe's old friend from high school, Ron Steensland, was surprised to find that Eric would be at the Cigar Aficionados convention in Las Vegas in November.  Both have contacted Eric since.  Lyris was my best friend from junior high school. 

The Smoker's Lounge fronted on the open area (once Ramsey field where my husband, his brothers and their friends played football) where croquet was set up.

I think the "wedding raising" was the best idea I have ever had.  It succeeded in creating a beautiful environment at the same time my friends, family and I bonded even more.

IV. Implementation--Life goes on regardless of the big events.  My calendar that month was full.  But there are things I would not have remembered if I had not put it on a calendar.  Write everything down.  You will be so stressed you'll forget the basics. 

WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN.  COMMUNICATE WELL WITH THOSE RESPONSIBLE FOR TASKS.

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